Hilal's Notes

Life is a journey with multiple sets of relationships. The natural perspective we understand of a relationship is usually based on the importance of the other person in terms of needs and wants. Variations imbalanced for the common needs of two people creates a dependency towards the other person. Actions to fulfill this task is the behavior we perform with the other person. For this reason and more expectations and the individuality varies for each human being. The perfect relationships is a dream we all have. Reality is there are no perfect relationships in terms of need comparison through our emotional variations. Each emotion we feel makes us urge to act or behave the way we behave. Some personalities we meet are like empty wine glasses which has to be handled with care while others are like rock stones.

Each of our souls are born pure. Most of us "has to" believe that we become who we are through our environment. The happiness we receive and the struggles we face to achieve what we dream. The path we live each day and learning everyday with new challenges. The experiences we have gained throughout puts us at where we stand Right Now.  The divide between good and bad comes into the perspective from the judgments, we continuously receive from others. A new struggle begins at this point. As we all are dependent on the acceptance of the other human, it requires us to change from who we are to what they want. The amount of acceptance we are willing to get from the other person equals to the amount of change we apply into our lives. Each bridge of relationship we build around us makes us change, one or the other way. Along with each change, we lose a bit of our pure original self.

It is indeed the society has made us who we are, but it is important for each of us to remain the individuality of our own selves. The inner true self we have deep within us wakes every now and then. The urge of becoming the intended self, create waves each time we self realize. It comes out in moments that we feel we are in control of the situation. Truth is we have never been in the control on any situation. Some say its fate which is controlling us. Others say it’s a pre-written menu script of our creator. Debates can be held for things that aren’t in control of anyone of us. Why not adding another perspective to the same. Each of us has been bestowed with energy, which stimulates based on the needs of our inner selves.  

What is it really that our inner self want? Being Free, Peaceful, Self-satisfaction so on it goes a list of common needs. Achieving a certain goal does not end the mission of any human. As long as he lives he would want something. What if, we limit our own needs? The noblest of humans such as Dala I Lama, Lord Buddha, so on up to our beloved PBUH Prophet Mohamed SAW we have seen selflessness as their common strength. The higher person goes within a community, the person becomes of lesser needs and control of one’s own self. In making the other happy not because one is appreciated but making others happy make them feel fulfilled. We are not prophets, each of us can start by doing something small to someone. By giving space to other person while we wait queue or giving out free education of your knowledge to someone who is in need.